Mini Episode - "Stop doing wife things, if you are not a wife"

The right person isn't going to marry you because you withheld your love.

They're going to marry you because they choose you.

Keep your standards high.
Keep your boundaries healthy.

But never stop being who you are. 

Transcript

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Hi everyone, I am Martista Love Coach checking in on this beautiful Wednesday. Today is June 4th. I know that I have an episode that I'm going to be doing for tomorrow, but um first I want to say thank you to everyone who has listened so far to my episode that aired yesterday. Um, that was my letters to the love coach Wednesday. Um my podcast is Love Talk with Martista Love Coach. Please, please, please tell a friend to tell a friend, tell family to tell family. Listen to me, okay? Um, I wanted to just do like a quick video, maybe not quick, but quick. Try to be quick. I like to talk. I wanted to do a video about something that me and my spouse had a had a talk today, and she said, um, it was the Meganistallion thing, right? She was saying that on the Breakfast Club, she heard uh one of them saying she overplayed her role. She was doing wifey things like meeting with the family and um cooking for him and things like that, and that's why he did what he did. I hear people say all the time, stop doing wife things if you're not a wife. And while I do understand the point they're trying to make, I just don't agree. Okay, so here's why. Women we're naturally nurturing. Many women, um, we show love through acts of service, support, encouragement, and that we care. So that's not being a wife, that's just being who you are naturally. So you should never stop being yourself, hiding your heart, or you should never just become cold just to earn a ring. Because marriage isn't a reward for withholding love, marriage is commitment. Now, does that mean you should overextend yourself, ignore red flags, or pour into someone who's not pouring into you? Absolutely not. Okay, I'm not saying that, but the difference between having healthy boundaries and pretending to be someone you're not is what everyone is getting things confused at, right? The truth is if someone wants to marry you, they usually know. Not because you cooked dinner, not because you folded their laundry or took the clothes to the dry cleaner, not because you care for their kids that that's not biologically yours, not because you gave them the wife treatment. And I do this because I don't like that saying. They choose to marry you because they saw a future with you, they value you, and they're ready for the commitment that marriage requires. And the same goes for women. If she wants to marry you, she will know. Marriage isn't about who did the most chores or who played the the the role the longest or who pays the most bills. It's about bills, it's about two people choosing each other intentionally. So don't stop being loving, don't stop caring, don't stop being nurturing, just make sure your love is reciprocated, okay? Because healthy relationships aren't built on keeping the score, they're built on a mutual effort, uh, mutual respect, and a mutual commitment, commitment. Okay, so the right person won't make you won't marry you because you withheld your love. They are gonna marry you because they recognize your value and they're gonna choose you over and over and over every single day. They're gonna wake up and realize I choose you every single day. Okay, and again, I am out here listening to other stations and just hearing people say it talk about random things, and I say, you know what, I have to talk about this. I have to put my two two cents in because if I don't, it's gonna bother me until I do. So, um, so yeah, I just wanted to throw that out there as one of my little shorts. Um, again, thank you everyone who has listened to my episode yesterday. Um, I appreciate it. This is my first week doing podcasts, and I have had a great amount of listeners, and I did not expect that my first week. I really appreciate all of the support, all of the shares. Um, so my Instagram is love with Martisse. My TikTok and my Facebook is Martisthelovecoach.com. My website is Martisse. I'm sorry. That was my website, Martisthelove Coach.com, and then my TikTok and my Facebook is Martista Love Coach. You will be able to hear me every single Wednesday letters to the love coach. Continue to send me those letters, and then you will be able to hear me every single Friday um lessons with the Love Coach. Continue to listen and support me. I am streaming on every single um every single streaming platform you could think of. I am there. You can type in love talks with Martisa Love Coach, and you will find me. Follow me so you can get notified. Um I support healing, I support love, I support happiness, I support self-worth, okay? And I do have my three journals still: the Back to Me self-healing journal, um, the Love Between Us, which is a couple's journal, and then I have a teen journal called Back to Me, the Teen Edition. Um, really quick, I just want to say the difference between my journals and other journals is it's a guided journal. Like you're just not opening a journal and writing. You are guided with my personal knowledge and my personal feedback. You are guided throughout the whole entire journal. Every single one. So, again, continue to support me. I love you guys so much. Thank you. Thank you for being here. Thank you for listening to me. Thank you for believing in me, and thank you for supporting me in any way, whether it was a share on Facebook, a share on TikTok, a comment, anything, all of that is considered support. I love you guys and have a wonderful, wonderful day.